Mental Load of Working Momsies

Can I just be frank?

Situasi dia macam ni. As a working mom, you have the guilt of leaving your children for more than 10 hours with pengasuh. Lepas tu, rasa tak lengkap sebagai isteri bila tak boleh nak siapkan makanan untuk suami especially jika suami seorang yg rely on you bab makan-makan ni. So bila tak mampu nak uruskan semua, mulalah terbit di hujung minda kurang sedar untuk "jom resign nak". 

Ini semua mom/wife guilt. I bet all the working moms got it. 

Even though we know that the working period is actually our own me time (not mommy time), but the job drains us out as well. 

Bila difikirkan, sama saja penatnya sebagai housewife dan working wife. Though some may say working mom doubles the job, it turns out working mom can escape from the situation and recover. Housewife lagi gila tak boleh ke mana unless you run away from home kejap to breathe some fresh air outside. 

Approaching 3 years of working in the retail setting ni kan, ada beberapa option yang aku dah point out secara berperingkat. Biasalah idea tu datang dalam keadaan yang tak disangka-sangka kan - masa drive balik kerja, masa mandi, masa iron baju.. gitu~

Ini major kehendak yang aku ada:
1. Masa bekerja habis pukul 6 selewatnya. 2 hari cuti. 
2. Gaji yang setimpal dengan jobscope. Starting 5.5K basic with bare minimum.
3. Lokasi - perlu strategik dan betul sebab you're not living alone. Ada husband yang chasing his dream juga. wajib jadi manusia considerate.  

Ini option yang terlintas di fikiran:
1. Buka franchise - cons dia adalah urus sendiri semua, mesti business minded bukan blindly buka satu sebab itu semua duittt.... pros, that's yours, your rules. Boleh dapat ketiga-tiga kehendak tu. 
2. Apply kerja kosong di gov-linked healthcare setting macam HCTM, UMSC, or other place. tapi takkan dapat di tempat yang kau nak. Jauh.

Another thing is, anak-anak aku dah bonded with their pengasuh. How on earth aku nak cari pengasuh yg begitu and start over. Anak-anak untuk start over. Beliau asuh dari umur 3 bulan. Such a bless in disguise. 

Jadi as the time passes, and the journey gets easier once adik dah besar, aku pun dah berdamai dengan current lifestyle. Apa pun, aku yang kena susun my life. Allah yaa baarik. 

"Gratitude is the fairest blossom which springs from the soul".

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